{"id":6727,"date":"2026-07-29T17:46:51","date_gmt":"2026-07-29T15:46:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/?p=6727"},"modified":"2026-07-29T18:01:40","modified_gmt":"2026-07-29T16:01:40","slug":"wanneer-beslisten-we-als-mens-lafaards-te-zijn","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/2026\/07\/29\/wanneer-beslisten-we-als-mens-lafaards-te-zijn\/","title":{"rendered":"When did we, as human beings, decide to be cowards?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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At what point in our history as human beings did we decide, out of cowardice, to go through life this way?<\/p>

I really wonder about that.<\/p>

Where does this come from?
Where is the root?<\/p>

What was the moment when we thought to ourselves:
\u201cWhy don\u2019t we just wallow in destructive power, lust, and ego for a change?\u201d
At that moment, when we made that decision, we knew we were going to destroy each other from the inside out. Right?<\/p>

We see and feel that we are causing pain to our fellow human beings.
We know that we cause each other pain.
In fact, we often take it to such an extent that the suffering inherent in this form of life will never (completely) heal.<\/p>

When\u2014and, above all, why\u2014did we, as human beings, make this decision?<\/p>

To inflict that kind of pain on someone else?<\/p>

Over and over again.<\/p>

Why?<\/p>

What's the point?<\/p>

What is the added value?<\/p>

Other than creating people who become as docile as sheep and easy to control, I don't see the point.<\/p>

People who have been drained.<\/p>

People who have been drained.<\/p>

Look around you.<\/p>

Who radiates the kind of energy that makes you think, \u201cWooooo, that glow.\u201d #smelt<\/p>

Who is truly alive?<\/p>

And no, getting yourself drunk just so you\u2019ll finally dare to dance and \u2018have fun\u2019 is not<\/u> life.<\/p>

Once all of this becomes crystal clear to you, you can\u2019t help but ask the following question:<\/p>

\u201cWhy don\u2019t we point this out to each other?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>

Why don't we call out the other person when they're acting like a jerk or a bitch?
Shouldn't he take a good, hard look at himself and stop taking it out on others like a true coward?<\/p>

The fact that one person deliberately attacks another so that the other won\u2019t have to take responsibility for their own inner being\u2026 Why do we tolerate that?
Why do we keep making excuses for this?
\u201cOh, but he or she is anxious.\u201d
\u201cOh well, he or she was just having a bad day.\u201d
\u201cOh, he or she is traumatized.\u201d
So what?<\/p>

None of that gives you a free pass to act so recklessly and drag everyone along in your wake.<\/p>

It's beyond me.<\/p>

The fact that SO MANY people do it means it can continue to exist\u2014and worst of all, the group has decided to keep it going.<\/p>

Why don't we call for order?
Why do we allow this contagious infection\u2014because that\u2019s exactly what it is\u2014and this torment to continue to exist?<\/p>

And no.
I'm not asking for the point of order to be filled by those driven by ego.
No.
Not in a manipulative way.
Not in a way that is intimidating or instills fear.
Not in a derogatory way.<\/p>

Well.
Well-founded.
Respectful.
Straight to the point.
Calm.
Presenting facts and observations to clarify the issue.
Communication to prevent them from running away again.<\/p>

Communication to tell your fellow human beings and make them feel:<\/p>

\u201cI see you, my fellow human. I see what you\u2019re doing. I see what you\u2019re running away from. Don\u2019t do this. I care too much about you to let this happen. My fellow human. I care too much about you to watch you suffer like this. That suffering, over and over again. Spreading the contagious infection even further. My fellow human. Look at what you\u2019re doing. Look at yourself and others. Understand yourself and others. Look deeper. Understand more deeply, so that you can feel that impulse to truly change. Decide to change. Want to change. Have the courage to change. Embrace it wholeheartedly and persevere. We need you, brave human. The contagious infection that plagues our humanity. Every person who changes, at their core, helps put a stop to the contagion. If it rears its head again, this person will understand it deeply and never again accept it as their own reality. It will never spread further. In this way, this person becomes a beacon of hope and inspiration for others. Providing proof that you yourself can build a solid inner foundation. Understand what is at stake now and for your future. Our future. We need you. Decide.\u201d<\/em><\/p>

It's neither a small nor an easy matter.<\/p>

I'll admit it\u2014I realize that.<\/p>

Still, it's hard to understand why so many people decide to:
\u201cNo, we do not accept responsibility\u201d
\u201cNo, we\u2019re not going to face this head-on and tackle it.\u201d
\u201cThat\u2019s right, we\u2019d rather remain cowards than do anything about this.\u201d<\/p>

I often encounter resistance, hostility, and attempts to destroy me when I lay things out as they are. Not to mention the \u2018labels\u2019 and so-called \u2018realities about who I really am\u2019 that are pinned on my name and my identity.<\/p>

Simply because humanity prefers cowardice to courage.
Simply because humanity prefers cowardice to responsibility.<\/p>

It's not completely beyond my comprehension.<\/p>

Luckily.<\/p>

Still, the questions remain:<\/p>

-> \u201cWhat do you need to decide to courageously face your own issues and
\u201dGet started with it?\"<\/p>

-> \u201cWhat would it take to get you to actually take responsibility?\u201d<\/p>

Even if it takes a lifetime.
I'll keep working on this until I've gained a thorough understanding of the root causes and have subsequently identified possible approaches and solutions for you.\u00a0<\/p>

Despite everything I see.
Despite the realization that humanity has let itself down.
I know we can turn this around.<\/p>

Every person is good at heart.
Now we just need to tackle the mess around us, and we'll never let ourselves down again.<\/p>

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Op welk ogenblik in onze geschiedenis als mens beslisten wij als lafaards door het leven te gaan? Ik vraag het me echt af. Van waar komt dit?Waar ligt de wortel? Wat was het ogenblik waarop we dachten bij onszelf:\u201cLaat ons nu maar eens lekker baden in destructieve macht, wellust en ego.\u201d?Op dat ogenblik, deze beslissing, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":265,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6727","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6727","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/265"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6727"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6727\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6743,"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6727\/revisions\/6743"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6727"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6727"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saskiafaelens.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6727"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}